{"id":655,"date":"2026-01-01T08:00:44","date_gmt":"2026-01-01T08:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/relationshipbloginfo.com\/?p=655"},"modified":"2026-01-01T08:00:44","modified_gmt":"2026-01-01T08:00:44","slug":"how-to-find-build-maintain-healthy-romantic-relationships-esther-perel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/relationshipbloginfo.com\/?p=655","title":{"rendered":"How to Find, Build &amp; Maintain Healthy Romantic Relationships | Esther Perel"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"480\" height=\"270\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ajneRM-ET1Q\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. She explains healthy romantic relationship dynamics and how to achieve them. The answer includes curiosity not just about the other person but, more importantly, about who we can evolve into through healthy relating.<\/p>\n<p>Esther explains the fundamental differences and challenges in relationships formed at different stages of life. We also discuss relationship conflict and how to give and receive a true apology. <\/p>\n<p>Additionally, we discuss fidelity, breaches of trust, reviving relationships, and tools for understanding your needs regarding love and desire in a relationship. The episode will help listeners understand the key elements to find, build, and revive deeply satisfying romantic relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Access the full show notes for this episode: https:\/\/go.hubermanlab.com\/5SqFgLG<\/p>\n<p>Use Ask Huberman Lab, our chat-based tool, for summaries, clips, and insights from this episode: https:\/\/go.hubermanlab.com\/w4kl7s<\/p>\n<p>Pre-order Andrew&#8217;s book, Protocols: https:\/\/go.hubermanlab.com\/protocols<\/p>\n<p>*Thank you to our sponsors*<br \/>\nAG1: https:\/\/drinkag1.com\/huberman<br \/>\nDavid Protein: https:\/\/davidprotein.com\/huberman<br \/>\nLMNT: https:\/\/drinklmnt.com\/huberman<br \/>\nHelix Sleep: https:\/\/helixsleep.com\/huberman<br \/>\nFunction: https:\/\/functionhealth.com\/huberman <\/p>\n<p>*Esther Perel*<br \/>\nWebsite: https:\/\/www.estherperel.com<br \/>\nBooks: https:\/\/www.estherperel.com\/books<br \/>\nTurning Conflict into Connection (Course): https:\/\/www.estherperel.com\/courses\/turning-conflict-into-connection<br \/>\nWhere Should We Begin? (Podcast): https:\/\/www.estherperel.com\/podcast<br \/>\nNewsletter: https:\/\/www.estherperel.com\/blog<br \/>\nTED Talks: https:\/\/www.ted.com\/speakers\/esther_perel<br \/>\nX: https:\/\/x.com\/estherperel<br \/>\nFacebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/esther.perel<br \/>\nInstagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/estherperelofficial<br \/>\nYouTube: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@estherperel<br \/>\nLinkedIn: https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/estherperel <\/p>\n<p>*Timestamps*<br \/>\n00:00:00 Esther Perel<br \/>\n00:02:03 Sponsors: David Protein, LMNT &amp; Helix Sleep<br \/>\n00:06:33 Romantic Relationships, Change &amp; Self<br \/>\n00:11:18 Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships, Age Differences<br \/>\n00:16:53 Young vs. Older Couples, Dynamic Relationships<br \/>\n00:20:13 Identity &amp; Relationship Evolution<br \/>\n00:26:00 Curiosity, Reactivity<br \/>\n00:30:29 Sponsor: AG1<br \/>\n00:31:59 Polarization, Conflict; Coherence &amp; Narratives<br \/>\n00:38:21 Apologies, Forgiveness, Shame, Self-Esteem<br \/>\n00:45:00 Relationship Conflict<br \/>\n00:53:48 Sponsor: Function<br \/>\n00:55:35 Verb States of Conflict; Emotion, Narratives vs. Reality<br \/>\n01:00:10 Time Domains &amp; Hurt; Caretaker &amp; Romantic Relationships<br \/>\n01:08:03 Couples Therapy; Language &amp; Naming<br \/>\n01:20:15 Sexuality in Relationships<br \/>\n01:26:20 Tool: Love &amp; Desire, Sexuality<br \/>\n01:31:28 Infidelity, \u201cAliveness\u201d<br \/>\n01:35:17 Intimacy, Abandonment, Self-Preservation<br \/>\n01:41:26 Erotic Blueprints, Emotional Needs<br \/>\n01:49:42 Tool: Repair Work, Relationship Revival; Sincere Apologies<br \/>\n01:59:30 Tool: Relationship Readiness<br \/>\n02:03:33 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify &amp; Apple Follow &amp; Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter<\/p>\n<p>#HubermanLab #EstherPerel #Relationships<\/p>\n<p>Disclaimer &amp; Disclosures: https:\/\/www.hubermanlab.com\/disclaimer<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. 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